Comments on: Are you man enough to be friends with extraordinary people?

By: Lady smaggle

Lady smaggle — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 05:17:07 +0000

Annoyed – Asian refers to people of Asian descent, which Roomy is. I also use the term ‘man’ in the colloquial sense. Do you really think I believe that you have to be a man to be strong? I also never said anything about my friends boyfriend being as attractive as her. I said he was average compared to her. He happens to a really hot actor. Who is average every other department. Ta for your comments though! And do have a cruise around Smaggle… I feel this article may have misrepresented me out of context! X

By: Annoyed

Annoyed — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 20:40:17 +0000

I feel sorry for Roomy. I’ve been in her position before, despite the fact that I am not that attractive. If people don’t like me because THEY think I’m so excellent, they have problems. Also, Roomy is only half Asian, not “Asian” as you put it. And you don’t have to be a man to be strong. Finally, your friend has a case of tall poppy syndrome and if she acts like that all the time, she won’t get any where in life because she will reinforce the notion that mediocrity is good. Finally, some people who are perceived to be attractive have less “attractive” partners because maybe… just maybe they don’t have a damn about looks, they like that person because they are kind or trustworthy, or because they tell great jokes, or maybe they are very smart. Jealousy is, after all, superficial.

By: HORNY toad

HORNY toad — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 06:23:05 +0000

That made me hornie!…..Horny horny horny. Sorry, I have turretts…HORNY!

By: Elliedancer

Elliedancer — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 01:37:35 +0000

I’m not sure that I need to be ‘man’ enough to have exceptional friends. Being strong and level headed is probably enough. Men aren’t the only ones with strength you know.

And while I admire Roomy for accepting the friends apology there is no way I would do the same. Theres no room and no time in life for toxic people like that. Move on!

By: Esz

Esz — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 22:45:12 +0000

I totally get you. What an awful situation for Roomy – I’ve learnt it’s best not to keep people like Tina in your life.
I like to aim high and hang out with people I take aspiration from. I might not want to BE them or follow their exact lifestyle, but I respect them and see qualities in them that I would like or have in myself.
Sometimes it still surprises me that people I admire so much want to be friends with ME. I could never be around negative people and those that don’t want to see their friends happy. What is the point in that?

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 20:31:04 +0000

Ooh Lady Smaggle, you always dare drag up the ‘real’ issues that plague us. I have never read anything about this problem, which is all too real for most of us, and can even play a part in making life-decisions!

I do suffer from jealousy towards girls/women who (in my view!!!) have it better & are luckier & prettier & (the real nub of the problem) get more attention as a result of that.

I don’t want to be like that, but it is hard…

I hope you keep writing your wise words & cool thoughts.

Lotsalove from all the way on the other side of the globe (Netherlands)

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 11:13:04 +0000

I have had the exact same thing happen to me many years ago!! The “friend” then rubbished me to our other mutual friends behind my back so I had no idea she hated me! Thankfully the mutual friends we shared were awesome and sided with me (as they knew none of it was my fault) and she ended up moving to a different state as she was so embarrassed about the whole thing!
And, having met Roomy Smaggle – there is no freakin way I would ask her to be my wing woman! She is a goddess!
This was an awesome post Lady. me likey.

By: The Mumma

The Mumma — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 08:43:01 +0000

Maybe this is why I have trouble holding onto to close female friends. Perhaps I’m just too spectacular for them.

By: Sam

Sam — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 02:53:07 +0000

Fair enough. I do rather enjoy your schtick so I’ll let it slide.

By: Tania

Tania — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 01:00:48 +0000

As you said, Tina was an idiot for taking a goddess with her as a wing woman. You save introductions between boyfriends and goddesses until you’re sure of your relationship with them – not when you’re not even going out yet….

I love hanging round with fabulous people – people with great relationships, friendships, interests, looks, talents. It inspires me. For others unfortunately it inspires jealousy and maliciousness…that says more about those people though doesn’t it? How low is Tina’s self esteem that she needed to drag down Roomy like that? Sad.

Andrea said it perfectly: “Funny, isn’t it, how extraordinary people lift you up to join them, while sub-standard people drag you down?”