I was having a drink with some girlfriends a few nights ago and they mentioned that they used to hate each other. Hard. They now live together for maybe the third time in their lives and are BFFs of the first order.
I realised that my BFF (AKA Co-Dependant Smaggle) and I didn’t exactly hit it off on the right foot either when we first met ten years ago. My Best Guy Friend and I had been cast in the same musical and were having a freaking ball. We’d sit in my car in the freezing cold after rehearsal and talk until 3am and get kicked out of dance practice for behaving like children. It was rad. Then all of a sudden this chick rocks up to be his dance partner and he can’t stop talking about how awesome she is. ‘She’s so smart! She’s so clever! She’s so pretty!‘. My little green eyed monster came out to play* and I was all ‘But… I’M your bestie! Not HER!’. Anyway to cut a very long and convoluted story short they started sleeping together about a nano second after I had that thought and when she was no longer threatening my position of Super Awesome Friend and was instead Super Awesome Girlfriend, I realised that she too was rad and ten years later we’re still BFFs. And Best Guy Friend is still her boyfriend. Naaaaaaawwwww.
Similarly I used to work in a newsagent with this Danish woman who I thought was horrible. She used to demand that I make her cups of tea and she’d say really weird things to me sometimes. Within 6 months I realised she was just a really straight shooter with a heart of gold and from then on we loved each other. She still works at the newsagent and to this day she still asks my mother to send her love and I haven’t worked there in 11 years.
This had me wondering if you guys have had a similar situation?
Do you have a significant friendship that started in mutual dislike? How did it turn around in the end?
* In my defence, neither of them knew I felt this way until years later and I was also 18 at the time and not very brilliant at realising that people can be friends with more than one person at a time.
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Absolutely! I worked with this woman when I was 21 and she was about 10 years older and had 2 kids. We hated each other. My parents were getting divorced and she was going through a divorce. We took our stress out on each other. One day she came into work with her baby girl. It was love at first sight for her and I. Before I knew it I had offered to babysit so she could have a break. Six months later I was staying in her spare room while I was looking for a place to live. She flew across the country for my wedding etc. I named one of my children after her baby girl. 16 years later I still consider her one of my dearest friends.
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How lovely! That story made my day!
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Haha, yep! I worked at a cafe in Canberra for awhile, and this dude came in with a resume – I was a supervisor, so I had a chat to him about putting him on the casual roster. First impression was great, and I totally hired him on the spot. He seemed smart, very funny, witty, was good looking and experienced. Tick. About ten minutes into his first shift, however, I realised what a ‘huge mistake’ I had made – I suddenly realised that he was not lovely and witty, but in fact was an arrogant, mouthy, smartarsed pain in the butt (who happened to be really, really good at the job) and wouldn’t take instructions from me! How very dare! He thought I was a neurotic bitch who wouldn’t get off his case, and made that very clear indeed. I LOATHED him. For six months we went along with this mutual hatred, and then, for no reason AT ALL, one shift it was just the two of us for a few hours and we suddenly just clicked. I still have no idea how we went from such intense hatred to such a wicked friendship in the blink of an eye. From then on, we became the ‘A-Team’ of the cafe – shit was AMAZING at that poky little dive when we were working together. I would make sure we were rostered on together as often as possible, and we started hanging out after work. Nothing romantic ever, we just realised how completely similar we are – we had to just get ‘in step’ with each other. We both moved on, overseas, relationships, degrees, life craziness – and 7 years later were are still very dear friends. Aww.
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Oooooooh! Which cafe? 🙂
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The Blue Olive! Lifetimes ago…
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Yes indeed. I was in 5th grade and she told me I could not wear Limited 2 clothing because I was not part of her Limited 2 group. Fast forward to 6th grade where I continued to wear whatever I wanted and she invited me to her slumber party. She still tries to tell me what to do. <3 her. http://www.bienestbien.com
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Cute! I love when you’re friends with someone long enough to remind them all the dumb shit they did when they were kids!
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haha this made me laugh. because just the other day my friends and i had a similar discussion. apparently i told her when we were 10 that she bought her clothes from crap places and should buy them all from esprit and country road. i had never bought clothes from esprit or country road. then i told everyone who would listen that she was a country hick. oops i was a total bitch, but we’re still best mates so i must’ve made up for it!
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Bwahaha! Kids are so stupid.
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My husband and I didn’t really like each other when we first met.
Well he didn’t like one of my friends I was with and I thought he was too quiet and rude… anyway we hung out a few more times and started to really like each other, well enough to eventually get married anyway 🙂-
Oh cute! I love that story!
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My best friend and I hated each other. We met in grade nine and really hated each other. Then little-by-little we put up with each other until one day in the school holidays, she randomly called me up and invited me to Amazons (dodgy Brisbane water park, anyone remember it?!) and I was all, ‘I thought she hated me?!’ Eventually we became inseparable. We’ve been best friends for nearly 12 years.
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