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hen I was a teenager, I prided myself on the fact that I had very few female friends. I’d proudly claim ‘Most of my friends are guys!’ and then I’d expect some kind of medal for being so awesome that guys liked me. What a dick I was. The older I get, the wiser I get and the more I realise how much I need my female friends. I love my guy friends but my girlfriends give me something different, something essential and irreplaceable. I’m separated geographically from most of my favourite women and I’ve been lucky enough to see almost all of them in the last month and it’s made me realise how essential they are in my life. Here are 7 reasons why your female friends are amazing… (your guy friends are also amazing but that’s an article for another day!).
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1. Women are psychic
Women seem to know when you need them. They’ll text when you’re having a bad day or they’ll call you when they’ve noticed you’ve been absent for a while. They can also (annoyingly) tell when you’re not okay which is sometimes exactly what you need.
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2. Women say what you need to hear
Sometimes you need someone to agree that your life has hit rock bottom. Sometimes you need to be told that you need to get your shit together. Women know when to soothe and they know when to scold. Most of my male friends (including Mr Smaggle) are straight shooters which I love but sometimes you need a healthy mix of a stern hand and a warm hug and women are ninjas at this.
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3. Women touch
I’m a very touchy person for a VERY short period of time and then I get really uncomfortable. Occasionally, I need to be forced into touching. Women know when you need to be held, even if you try to push them away.
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4. Women nurture
I live far away from my mother, which sucks but I have so many wonderful mother-like women in my life that would do anything for me at a moments notice. I love the men in my life, I really do but I always text my aunties before my uncles. They’re the bosses. And everyone knows it.
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5. Women talk
And talk. And talk. I love that I can revisit the same conversation again and again and still find new things to add. Most men want to discuss a topic once and preferably, never again. I don’t ever want to stop talking about Les Mis, royal weddings and Benedict Cumberbatch and that’s why I love my lady friends so much.
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6. Women remember
The name of that guy that you kissed in a club three years ago, your birthday, your favourite chocolate and the name of that boss that you really, really hated. When I catch up with my guy friends, I feel like I’m constantly reminding them of where we are in the story… my girlfriends get it straight away.
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7. Women are warriors
Women are fierce. Women are tribal. If one of the tribe is wounded, no mercy will be shown. I’ve forgiven ex-boyfriends for infidelities that my closest female friends will NEVER forgive them for. Eight years with my perfect man Mr Smaggle means nothing to them… they still hate that dude that broke my heart Pre-Prince Charming when I was still in high school. It doesn’t matter how happy I am now… they were the ones that held my hand and wiped my tears when I was broken and they will always remember that.
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Do you have awesome women in your life? Tell me about them…?
22 Comments
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I have some awesome women in my life.. two of them are stll my bff’s (yuck.. did I say that?) from school times. They never forgave that 18 yo ex boyfriends either.. Go ladies!
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It’s so funny isn’t it? I’m really good mates with one of my exes but we can’t hand out with my friends because they haven’t forgiven him. It’s hilarious and very sweet.
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WOMEN … yes it’s in our ancient memory … where we sat in that cave and read each other like books and the men went out to hunt!
women get other women! we listen! we are complex creatures, but we connect at a deeper level
I’m from a women’s family no boys in there … so I am very pro women!
for my 60th I had a special women’s lunch celebration, where I thanked them for their unique qualities! … best birthday yet!
“women who run with the wolves” a must read! pinkola-eates … I think!
cheers! m:)X-
Oh that sounds awesome! What a lovely thing to do! xxx
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I take a while to let people in cause I’ve had girlfriends in the past that have been catty. So I have some “new” girlfriends that are amazing and already feel “old”. They help fill the void of choosing to no longer speak to my mum. ××
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It’s all about finding your tribe! I’m glad you’ve got some lovely ladies in your life. x
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OMG, I was like you when I was young too. I was all, “I have so many guy friends”…and then they slowly tapered off when I got married. Nowadays, I much prefer the company of females (except when it’s a whole gang of mums at Mothers Group but that’s another story for another day). My Mum and my sister are coming over to celebrate Christmas and the first birthday of my baby girl so I CANNOT wait for endless nights of banter…and overanalysation (i.e. gossip)!
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Oh my lord! My girlfriends and I are the same! You should have heard us on Saturday night – we talked for about 4 hours non-stop about the production of Les Mis we’d just seen. Best ever.
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This is a really lovely article Smaggle, thank you. Great to be reminded how cool my lady friends are… I’m going to go call them all now xx
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You are welcome! Please do! It’s so important to remind yourself of that occasionally. x
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I too was one of those annoying teenagers who loudly proclaimed my status as a tomboy and as having many male friends (I thought it made me look ‘cooler’ in their eyes). Anyway, I now have many girlfriends I love and cannot live without (some of whom stuck with me through those asshole high-school years). I do every so often love my nights with the boys but for entirely different reasons and they can never replace my girlfriends for a good chat, gossip and rehash for the 100th time every situation.
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I think going to all girls school made me have lots of guy friends back then, but now I love my girl time! Most of my friends are in relationships now we always make time to hang out without the boys… we need it!
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Last night I met up with my best friend/maid of honour and despite living a stones throw from eachother our schedules clash like a muthafucker so it has been awhile between vinos. But just that couple of hours has made me feel so much better, life seems a little less hectic and its because she is in it – organising me, telling me off (when deserved) and loving me like the sister she is.
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It sounds like you guys are made for each other. MOH. x
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Lovely article, darling. I feel lucky to have such lovely friends too! xx
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We are very lucky aren’t we? xxx
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Snaps, my love! I used to be “one of the guys” but now I am very much in love with my group of girls. They’re the ones who get me and I get them. I can share intimately personal things with them and know they won’t judge me and will give me good advice. They’re also loads of fun and I couldn’t imagine my life without them. Thank sweet baby cheeses for our girls! x
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I know right??? I love that I can be gross around my girlfriends too… I’m way less censored around my lady friends than my guy friends!
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I feel very blessed to have some awesome female friends. They are some of the fiercest creatures I know, and are quick to defend me and nurture me when I need it. As corny as it sounds, I feel a strong sense of sisterhood with them, like we all have eachother’s back. Somehow they just know when they’re needed, and each of my lady friends are quick to offer their help in whatever form that may take. I’m very lucky.
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Oh that’s so lovely! It doesn’t sound corny at all – it sounds like it’s just the way it should be. 🙂
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One of my BFs is a work colleague, and was the year above me at high school – and now we work in a high school – so much fun! It’s like co-parenting 80’s style!
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Ha! Cute! I love that. I picked up a good mate from work once… we haven’t worked together in about 7 years but we’re still really good mates!
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