You’re not good enough. You’re a bad friend. You’re not good at your job. You’re wasting time. You’re a waste of time.You’re so needy. What are you doing with yourself? Why would you say that? What if they hate it? Why can’t you have your shit together? You’re going to get anxious and because you’re going to get anxious, you’re going to mess everything up. You’re a fraud. Just good at faking it. You’re letting everybody down. No one here likes you.
You’re not OK, you’re messing everything up.
You’re totally OK, stop being such a baby.”
Sarah Schuster – The Mighty
I read this article very recently and suddenly every bad day, bad thought, every bout of low esteem I’ve ever experienced suddenly made sense.
I have high functioning anxiety or what looks like over-thinking. It doesn’t happen to me all the time but it presents itself really strangely. If I think a movie is going to sell out while I’m standing in the line, I will panic to the point of distraction. I will imagine the person in front of me buying 50 tickets and us just having to go home and it will make me frozen with anxiety. It’s ludicrous. It’s not like anyones is going to die but I can’t help it.
I also regret most of the things I say. After every social engagement, I go back over everything I said and I analyse my words and how people responded. ‘Was that inappropriate? Did that sound bitchy? Did I say something I wasn’t supposed to? Does that person hate me now?’
It’s exhausting being an over-thinker so this week on Straight and Curly, Kelly and I tackle the topic of being hard-core over-thinkers and how we deal with it.
Are you an over-thinker? Or do you think you have high functioning anxiety?
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I read the same article! And yep, everything you’re saying here is stuff I totally identify with. FWIW, going to therapy has helped a lot so far for me :-). If you’re like me and identifying with all this stuff, I highly recommend therapy if it’s an option available to you.
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Raquel, thank you for mentioning therapy. Ive been toying with the idea of seeing someone for awhile now but always get caught in the ‘there are people worse off than me’ or ‘there are people who really need help, Im not that bad’ but it couldn’t hurt. Especially if its helped you, beauty! xxx
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That’s such a great suggestion. It’s a whole weird thing where Aussies are a bit weird about it but US people are like ‘I have 3 therapists!’. I should really give it a go.
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I can’t wait to listen because I over think like its my job!! I go over conversations ALL THE TIME & have been know to text people later on to apologise for something I think I’ve said or done that could have been taken the wrong way. I’ve laid in bed at night going over & over situations that cannot be changed at 2am. I’m also a Grade A catasrophiser. It is the actual worst!
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We are such twins!!!!
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Ladies, this was the BEST! I am an over-thinker, BIG time! Its so nice to know that Im not the only one! Thank you very much for sharing! xxx
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Thank you so much for listening! It was a such a weird episode – everyone really connected with it.
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Chronic over-thinker to the point of complete idiocy, like wondering for far too long what my daughter will wear the next day.
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Oh my god that’s next level! You poor thing!
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I overthink about overthinking and get myself all worked up into a straight up panic attack. Thanks for sharing this and reminding us that we are not alone.
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Oh you’re so welcome! It made me feel less alone too!
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Yes i just overthought my own comment thinking ‘ no one will get that….maybe i shouls explain tbat better…..’
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Did you write this about ME????
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Omg this is so me I have to over think everything and then get so upset when things don’t go as planned and my anxiety just kicks in. I started an outlet which is my new blog at wespark1@wordpress.com this has allowed me to just relax
